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Helping Parents Help Their Kids
8 gratitude prompts to explore with your kids
Gratitude can be expressed in a variety of ways, and a little bit really does go a long way. It not only helps others to feel appreciated, it has benefits for your own overall sense of wellbeing too. Did you know you can lower stress levels, improve sleep and boost your immune system just by being grateful?
Dad-proof tips: Fostering the connection with your stepchild
Becoming a stepdad can seem like a daunting role to take on. You are already a dad to your own kids, and now you taking on the role of being a stepfather to your partners children and forming a new connection can seem almost like an impossible task.
The post ‘problem’ talk
The most important thing to remember when your child has done the wrong thing is that this is a learning opportunity. Yelling at, or otherwise berating, your child is likely to have them feel badly and as a result, behave more badly. Punishments diminish the positive relationship you want to have with your child so, while sometimes necessary, should not be our go to means of dealing with misbehaviour
If your child is to learn, you have to teach. Here’s how…
By now, just about everybody will have heard the play on words that to ASSUME is to make ‘an ASS out of U and ME’ and be familiar with message that underpins it: That, to assume just creates the opportunity for one or both of us to make mistakes. It highlights the dangers of assumptions. It unfortunately, doesn’t stop us making them
Dealing With Sibling Rivalry (or how do I stop my kids from killing each other?)
Is your household a melting pot of your kids constantly competing with each other? How do you stop your kids from killing each other?
Kids and household chores - how to make them work for everybody
Should your kids be doing chores? The answer yes. Yes, yes and yes again. Your kids should help with the household chores. It is good because otherwise you have to do it all. It is good because it teaches them the importance of making a contribution.
Miracle Cure! How to fix your difficult child overnight.
As someone who works on parent-child relationships, the most common question I get asked by parents is along the lines of, “Can you please fix my child, they are …………………… (difficult, horrible, problematic, disrespectful, nasty, defiant, uncooperative etc). The fix is actually far easier than you might think.
Surviving Year 12 for Parents
So, it’s coming up to crunch time. Year 12 exams.
To your teenage student this is it; the culmination of 13 years of education. One set of tests to set up the rest of their life. It is demanding and can be overwhelming. There is plenty of advice online to help your child. Here is some that might help.
The stats are in, kids are struggling, how do you help?
The latest National Study of Mental Health and Wellbeing was released by the Australian Bureau of Statistics in July 2022, and the findings are pretty frightening for our teenagers.
Making a difference…
I recently spent some time working with an awesome mum in Port Macquarie, focusing on helping her with raising a balanced, healthy and happy son who is dealing with the challenges of moving between her home, and that of his Dad’s. Here’s what she had to say…
Co-parenting in separation: Getting the best outcomes for your kids (part 3)
Previously in this blog series we have discussed structures for co-parenting households to set up in order to gain the best results for their children. In this blog we make a start at looking at dealing with a difficult co-parent and some more thoughts about keeping your child’s welfare front of mind at times when we could get totally absorbed in our own issues
Co-parenting in separation: Getting the best outcomes for your kids (part 2)
Taking the time to understand how the difficulties of separation can affect a child and their behaviour can help us approach problematic behaviour, with a better mindset and lead to better results.
Co-parenting in separation: Getting the best outcomes for your kids (part 1)
Parenting is hard.
To be able to nurture your child’s complex development in the age of technology is incredibly demanding. Parenting your child through the minefield that is co-parenting after separation is much more demanding again
What happens in a parent education session?
While parent education is a concept that has been around for a while, many people are unsure or unnerved about what this means, so here I thought I would break it down for you.
What is PARENT EDUCATION?
Question: What is the difference between a parent and a psychologist? The primary difference is how much a psychologist gets paid.
In essence they both deal daily with the human psyche. They try to work out how to reach the person that they are working with and help them navigate the difficulties that they encounter and, in the end, be the best people they can be.
How important are parents in determining their children’s lives?
How important are parent's in determining the lives that their children have? Short answer: So far more influential than anything else in their lives that many may find it frightening.
Your child and brain development
Every skill that you will ever have, every thought and perception, every action you ever choose to take stems from your brain.
Maximising my child’s academic performance: the early school years
Many people believe that learning the alphabet and basic counting before they get to school is critical for long-term academic success Truth is its not an essential requirement of starting primary school, they will go through it all once they get there. What is critical however it that they enjoy school and having a little headstart may help to lessen the risk of them struggling early on.
Maximising my child’s academic performance: the pre-school years
It is no surprise that people want to know how they can set their child up for success in school. There are 100s of things that will ultimately contribute because we humans are complex animals, but let’s have a look at a few of the important ones.